One of the most common questions that fathers have when heading toward divorce is whether or not they’re going to get to see their children. They believe that the courts are going to favor the mothers and not them.
For instance, it’s common for men to assume that they are just going to be allowed to visit on the weekends and that they’re going to be ordered to pay child support, but that the children are going to live with the mother most of the time. Is this actually what happens?
Parents now get equal treatment
The reason that this myth hangs on is that it used to be true. But the courts have now shifted their view towards more equal treatment for both parents. They have found that this is better for the children on a multitude of levels. For instance, kids who have involvement with both parents tend to develop better socially and intellectually, and they may do better in school. By putting the children first, the court knows that it’s important for them to have these relationships.
Moreover, the goals of the couples themselves have shifted. Most of the time, couples even want equal treatment to go to both parents. They are not interested in fighting over custody, but would rather have a joint custody solution and a schedule where they can share their time.
Knowing where you stand
That doesn’t mean that this won’t be complicated, however, or that it’s not important to know what your rights are. Be very aware of the steps you can take to make sure that you still get to see your children after the divorce.